How much we miss you!

Ben was only 30 years old when he was killed in a rerailing accident on December 28, 2000 in Alma, MI while working for Hulcher Services, Inc.

plaque made by Cathy is here, please visit her son Kenny
The photo on the banner is on Ben's headstone

more photos here

This page was last updated with sadness on: May 18, 2010
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I am home in Heaven, dear ones;
Oh, so happy and so bright!
There is perfect joy and beauty
In this everlasting light.

All the pain and grief is over,
Every restless tossing passed;
I am now at peace forever,
Safely home in Heaven at last.

Did you wonder I so calmly
Trod the valley of the shade?
Oh! but Jesus' love illuminated
Every dark and fearful glade.

And He came Himself to meet me
In that way so hard to tread;
And with Jesus' arm to lean on,
Could I have one doubt or dread?

Then you must not grieve so sorely,
For I love you dearly still:
Try to look beyond earth's shadows,
Pray to trust our Father's Will.

There is work still waiting for you,
So you must not idly stand;
Do it now, while life remaineth-
You shall rest in Jesus' land.

When that work is all completed,
He will gently call you Home;
Oh, the rapture of that meeting,
Oh, the joy to see you come!

Copyright by
Priests of the Sacred Heart
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Letters written by Ben's sister Tiff  his older brother, Smitty  a poem written by Smitty's mother, Lynda (but wasn't received in time for the service)  and a tale shared by his dad

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Listen to Good Riddance (Time Of Your Life) from Green Day's Nimrod album was played at Ben's funeral
Good Riddance (Time of Your Life) Lyrics

Another turning point
A fork stuck in the road
Time grabs you by the wrist
Directs you where to go
So make the best of this test
And don't ask why
It's not a question
But a lesson I learned in time

It's something unpredictable
But in the end it's right
I hope you had the time of your life

So take the photographs
And still frames in your mind
Hang it on a shelf of good health and good time
Tattoos of memories and dead skin on trial
For what it's worth
It was worth all the while

Ben's first gun, a BB gun bought by Dad at 4, his first big kill was a large moth, he thought was a bird....

We were never called by the schools for discipline problems, not even during his puberty years! Ben always had excellent citizenship....

Ben collected garfield (many have disappeared), coins, stamps among other things.....

Besides FFA, Ben was in the boyscouts and 4-H for 9 year, He played base-ball, football, wrestled and ran cross country.....

At 16, Ben had a successful landscaping business which he received a FFA award and scholarship.....

Saved enough in one summer to purchase his own car, 64 1/2 mustang and insurance......

Other mothers would tell me how impressed they were that Ben would run to Tiff if she fell and pick her up, no one else's brothers would dare do that at school......

Ben attended the Farmington United Methodist Church most of his life, was baptized there and and also did the landscaping. Alot of the time he was the only male teen attending.....

He went to Escalon schools: Farmington Elementary, Collegeville Elementary, El Portal Middle School and on to Escalon High. ....

Attended UTI in Phoenix, doubled up on classes, attending up to 12 hours each day, held a parttime job at night with RPS and still graduated on the dean's list......

The microwave here in my kitchen was a gift from Ben on my 40th birthday. He was always very generous......

At 7, Ben got his first motorcycle, like the gun from his father without my approval, a Honda 50....

Ben and I were very close, we gardened, went to antique shows and garden shows together among other things. He taught me how to service the lawn equipment. I sometimes went with him on his landscape jobs after I got off work....

Ben called me just weeks before he died and said, "I may make you a grandma yet, mom." My first born and only son, there will be no grandchildren from Ben.....

His cousin would say "Ben's not a mama's boy, he's a MAMA'S----BOY! All male but he had much love and respect for his mom and women in general....

He always loved toys and had many hobbies - rockets, remote control cars & trucks, models, & besides his love for gardening.....

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When Ben died, his sister Tiff, lit  a candle for him and kept it burning continually untill I insisted she not, for obvious safety reasons.   Now she lites it on the monthly anniversary of his death, along with the one at his gravesite as mentioned on the memorial page.  She also hasn't turned her porch light off since, as she promised him in a letter she left with him at burial.  My nephew's girlfriend lit one daily to ease his sadness over Ben's death.   To me, light is naturally comforting because it represents our Lord.  For this reason I started an In Memory of....Forum for all to leave a memory of their loved one and have a candle lit. 

I will never forget you (Isaiah 49)

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Here today and tomorrow gone
Can't change the past,
what's done is done.
And we are left with
Emotions and Memories
Of Joy, Pain, Victories and Catastrophies.
All that we can do is continue on
Taking the good with the bad
And the agony with the fun. Lifelong polarity...
Callousness vs charity.
Life not fair?
Any lessons to share?
Strength and longevity
May breed love and generativity.
And, as the soul passes through Heaven's light,
Peace and tranquility oppose
The relentless disorder and confusion
Of the lifelong fight.

Sam L. Lawrence lll
January 9, 2002

left in Ben's guest book
Sam is Ben's cousin

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Because this page was getting full and loaded slowly, Kaye's poem on a plaque made by Lori,  a beautiful graphic  made by Cathy, and a memorial plaque made by Terri are moved to a new page for Ben

second Christmas without Ben by Lori
Ben's quilt by Lori

The Mention of His Name

"The mention of my child's name 
May bring tears to my eyes, 
But it never fails to bring 
Music to my ears. 
If you are really my friend, 
Let me hear the beautiful music of his name.
It soothes my broken heart 
And sings to my soul."

Author Unknown
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He Only Took My Hand
  Last night while I was trying to sleep,
My son's voice I did hear,
I opened my eyes and looked around,
But he did not appear.
He said, "Mom, you've got to listen,
You've got to understand,
God didn't take me from you, mom,
He only took my hand.
When I called out in pain that day,
The moment that I died,
He reached down and took my hand,
And pulled me to His side.
He pulled me up and saved me
From the misery and pain.
My body was hurt so badly,
I could never be the same.
My search is really over now,
I've found happiness within,
All the answers to my empty dreams
And all that might have been.
I love you all and miss you so,
And I'll always be nearby.
My body's gone forever,
But my spirit will never die.
And so, you must all go on now,
And live, and understand...
God did not take me from you,
He only took my hand."
Author Unknown
but I'll find out



Ben please watch over me
Every season of the year
And keep me safe
Each day and night
And to those I hold dear

Ben remind me too
To take some time
For all GOD'S precious things
Flowers, snowflakes and little birds
Such happiness they bring



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Dear Kathleen,
It is our pleasure to present to you the Rose of Remembrance Award. Each month five moms are chosen to receive this award. This award is given to recognize your hard work, love and devotion to your child, which shows in the website you have created to honor your child....

Your website will be featured in the November/December issue of the My Parents Are Survivors newsletter, along with the other recipients of this award. Please place this award on your site and link it to My Parents Are Survivors........

Thank you Sonya, Carolyn, Kaye, everyone!
the graphic below is made by Terri at Terri's Treasures as requested by Papaw Joe, Mr. William's grandpa

Mother's Day gift from Papaw Joe
Rainbows After the Storm