Ben was only 30 years old when he was killed in a rerailing accident on December 28, 2000 in Alma, MI while working for Hulcher Services, Inc. plaque made by Cathy is here , please visit her son Kenny The photo on the banner is on Ben's headstone
This page was last updated with sadness on: May 18, 2010
Safely Home I am home in Heaven, dear ones; Oh, so happy and so bright! There is perfect joy and beauty In this everlasting light. All the pain and grief is over, Every restless tossing passed; I am now at peace forever, Safely home in Heaven at last. Did you wonder I so calmly Trod the valley of the shade? Oh! but Jesus' love illuminated Every dark and fearful glade. And He came Himself to meet me In that way so hard to tread; And with Jesus' arm to lean on, Could I have one doubt or dread? Then you must not grieve so sorely, For I love you dearly still: Try to look beyond earth's shadows, Pray to trust our Father's Will. There is work still waiting for you, So you must not idly stand; Do it now, while life remaineth- You shall rest in Jesus' land. When that work is all completed, He will gently call you Home; Oh, the rapture of that meeting, Oh, the joy to see you come! Copyright by ________________
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What's new - Phishing : a spammer has obtained the mailing list addresses with trainwreckcentral2.com and sent numerous spam emails to the mailing lists, therefore the lists have been suspended. I apologize for the inconvenience this may have caused. This does not include the Train Wreck Forum updates, they have not been affected. Please visit Ben's other pages: And not new at all Letters written by Ben's sister Tiff his older brother, Smitty a poem written by Smitty's mother, Lynda (but wasn't received in time for the service) and a tale shared by his dad
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Good Riddance (Time of Your Life) Lyrics Another turning point A fork stuck in the road Time grabs you by the wrist Directs you where to go So make the best of this test And don't ask why It's not a question But a lesson I learned in time It's something unpredictable But in the end it's right I hope you had the time of your life So take the photographs And still frames in your mind Hang it on a shelf of good health and good time Tattoos of memories and dead skin on trial For what it's worth It was worth all the while
Ben's first gun, a BB gun bought by Dad at 4, his first big kill was
a large moth, he thought was a bird....
We were never called by the schools for discipline problems, not even
during his puberty years! Ben always had excellent citizenship....
Ben collected garfield (many have disappeared), coins, stamps among other
Besides FFA, Ben was in the boyscouts and 4-H for 9 year, He
played base-ball, football, wrestled and ran cross country.....
At 16, Ben had a successful landscaping business which he received a FFA
award and scholarship.....
Saved enough in one summer to purchase his own car, 64 1/2 mustang and
Other mothers would tell me how impressed they were that Ben would run to Tiff
if she fell and pick her up, no one else's brothers would dare do that at school......
Ben attended the Farmington United Methodist Church most of his life, was
baptized there and and also did the landscaping. Alot of the time he was the
only male teen attending.....
He went to Escalon schools: Farmington Elementary, Collegeville Elementary, El Portal Middle
School and on to Escalon High. ....
Attended UTI in Phoenix, doubled up on classes, attending up to 12 hours each
day, held a parttime job at night with RPS and still graduated on the dean's
The microwave here in my kitchen was a gift from Ben on my 40th
birthday. He was always very generous......
At 7, Ben got his first motorcycle, like the gun from his father without
my approval, a Honda 50....
Ben and I were very close, we gardened, went to antique shows and garden shows together among
other things. He taught me how to service the lawn equipment. I sometimes went with him on his
landscape jobs after I got off work....
Ben called me just weeks before he died and said, "I may make you a grandma yet,
mom." My first born and only son, there will be no grandchildren from Ben..... His cousin would say "Ben's not a mama's boy, he's a MAMA'S----BOY! All male but he
had much love and respect for his mom and women in general....
He always loved toys and had many hobbies - rockets, remote control cars & trucks,
models, & besides his love for gardening.....
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When Ben died, his sister Tiff, lit a candle for him and kept it burning continually untill I insisted she not, for obvious safety reasons. Now she lites it on the monthly anniversary of his death, along with the one at his gravesite as mentioned on the memorial page . She also hasn't turned her porch light off since, as she promised him in a letter she left with him at burial. My nephew's girlfriend lit one daily to ease his sadness over Ben's death. To me, light is naturally comforting because it represents our Lord . For this reason I started an In Memory of....Forum for all to leave a memory of their loved one and have a candle lit.
I will never forget you (Isaiah 49)
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ETERNAL POLARITY Here today and tomorrow gone Can't change the past, what's done is done. And we are left with Emotions and Memories Of Joy, Pain, Victories and Catastrophies. All that we can do is continue on Taking the good with the bad And the agony with the fun. Lifelong polarity... Callousness vs charity. Life not fair? Any lessons to share? Strength and longevity May breed love and generativity. And, as the soul passes through Heaven's light, Peace and tranquility oppose The relentless disorder and confusion Of the lifelong fight. Sam L. Lawrence lll January 9, 2002 left in Ben's guest book Sam is Ben's cousin ___________
Because this page was getting full and loaded slowly, Kaye's poem on a plaque made by Lori , a beautiful graphic made by Cathy , and a memorial plaque made by Terri are moved to a new page for Ben
The Mention of His Name "The mention of my child's name May bring tears to my eyes, But it never fails to bring Music to my ears. If you are really my friend, Let me hear the beautiful music of his name. It soothes my broken heart And sings to my soul." Author Unknown
He Only Took My Hand Last night while I was trying to sleep, My son's voice I did hear, I opened my eyes and looked around, But he did not appear. He said, "Mom, you've got to listen, You've got to understand, God didn't take me from you, mom, He only took my hand. When I called out in pain that day, The moment that I died, He reached down and took my hand, And pulled me to His side. He pulled me up and saved me From the misery and pain. My body was hurt so badly, I could never be the same. My search is really over now, I've found happiness within, All the answers to my empty dreams And all that might have been. I love you all and miss you so, And I'll always be nearby. My body's gone forever, But my spirit will never die. And so, you must all go on now, And live, and understand... God did not take me from you, He only took my hand." Author Unknown but I'll find out __________
AN ANGEL'S PRAYER Ben please watch over me Every season of the year And keep me safe Each day and night And to those I hold dear Ben remind me too To take some time For all GOD'S precious things Flowers, snowflakes and little birds Such happiness they bring REST IN PEACE BEN LOVE left in the guest book you can visit SueAnne and Lee at __________
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Dear Kathleen, It is our pleasure to present to you the Rose of Remembrance Award. Each month five moms are chosen to receive this award. This award is given to recognize your hard work, love and devotion to your child, which shows in the website you have created to honor your child.... Your website will be featured in the November/December issue of the My Parents Are Survivors newsletter, along with the other recipients of this award. Please place this award on your site and link it to My Parents Are Survivors........ Thank you Sonya, Carolyn, Kaye, everyone!